“Dandy” Don Meredith’s Country Music Heart
When “Dandy” Don Meredith died on Sunday, he was remembered as many things: Dallas Cowboys football player, commentator for Monday Night Football, actor in dozens of movies and TV shows. But one element you may not hear much about is his involvement with country music, and specifically, good Texas Outlaw country.
I’ve had Dandy Don on my list as a man to feature for a long time, and it depresses me that his death is the event that finally gets me to see it through. First and foremost, Don was a music lover. While playing football, he would occasionally break into song while in the huddle. He was good friends with Willie Nelson, Jerry Jeff Walker, and Roger Miller just to name a few. He also sang and performed himself, sharing the stage with Willie and Roger on a few occasions, and he cut two country records of his own. Former teammate Walt Garrison pulled out a 45-rpm on Monday and proudly read the names of the songs: “Travelin’ Man” on one side, “Them That Ain’t Got It Can’t Lose” on the other.
Meredith’s biggest contribution to music was using his celebrity to promote it, sometimes in subtle, but important ways. And as you’ll hear in the horribly 70’s-produced video below while introducing his buddy Jerry Jeff Walker, he had taste as well.
“There’s a lot of country music that I don’t particularly care for. Let’s put it this way, there’s some country music I care for much more than others. But the thing that has always fascinated me the most is I love to meet guys that are both songwriters, and can sing, and I like guys that are a little bit out of sync. You know, just a little bit out of sync? I hate ordinary.”
In other words, Dandy Don doesn’t go for pop country.
Man is Jerry Jeff lit, and likely resenting being dolled up for TV.
This second video is classic, because it’s Don trying to figure out how to ask Jerry Jeff to play Mr. Bojangles. At the time, Jerry Jeff was known to not only never play the song he wrote, but would get outright angry if you even asked, one time apparently urinating in a potted plant to prove his point.
Maybe the easiest example of Don’s subtle promotion of good country was when he would sing “Turn out the lights, the party’s over” whenever it was curtains for the losing team on Monday Night Football. “Turn Out The Lights” of course is a Willie Nelson song. Here’s a funny story about Don, the song, and Willie, from the Willie Nelson autobiography with Bud Shrake:
…we landed at the strip in Santa Fe to pick up Roger (Miller), and he wasn’t there. I went walking along the road toward town . . . Here came what looked like a taxi with a driver in the front seat wearing a cabbie’s cap. Roger was slumped in the back. I jumped in and said something like, “Airport, buddy, step on it.”
We roared off in the taxi, showering sand and rocks. I grabbed for something to hang on to and was about to shout at the driver when I noticed he looked sort of familiar under that cap. He turned around to me and said, “How about all them royalties you owe me for making you famous? I’m here to collect.”
Then I got a good look at his face and realized it was Don Meredith. I had known Don since back in the sixties . . . I used to watch Don play football, and he’d come to my shows and get onstage. Don had career ideas as a country singer–he cut a couple of records, in fact.
As I recall, I had sent Don a bouquet of roses the first night he sang “turn out the lights…” on Monday Night Football. Then he kept using the song, year after year, I was thoroughly enjoying it, or course, but I thought I would kid him about it. I had my office put together a thick stack of royalty statements and sent them to him with a letter that said, “Look Don, I know how badly you need material, but my family has got to eat.”
A couple of weeks later, Meredith sent me an accounting of the royalty statements I had unloaded on him. “Turn Out The Lights” had shown a sharp increase in sales in the years Meredith had been singing it . . .and by rights, I owed him a percentage.
This was the first time I had seen him since.
Don said, “No shit, now, Willie, I want my royalties. I’ve made you so famous you’ve got a jet plane, and I’m reduced to driving bums around in a taxi. Give me my money.”
I said, “Well, first I’ll have my people take lunch with your people. I think the truth is you owe me money.”
Don was kidding, of course, about him needing money.
Don Meredith became a virtual recluse around 1984, retiring to Santa Fe, right down the road from where Saving Country Music started. I’ve always wondered if his reclusiveness was from realizing there were deeper things in life, and he didn’t need to sell Lipton Tea or TV movies. These days cross-marketing and promotion of music is everywhere you go, but Dandy Don might have been one of the very first. He did a lot of good for good country music simply by having good taste and not being afraid to hide it.
December 7, 2010 @ 3:10 pm
I know exactly what he means when he says:
“I like guys that are a little bit out of sync. You know, just a little bit out of sync? I hate ordinary.”
Too many people are “ordinary” in country music today. Too polished, clean, and straight laced.
I’d much rather listen to someone who has that raspy voice or singers with strong southern accents.
December 7, 2010 @ 3:43 pm
He was really careful with that statement, but he said a lot. And don’t think people weren’t listening.
What was up with Mr. Roper? What a wet towel.
December 7, 2010 @ 4:39 pm
Thanks for this post. A welcome, but not complete, surprise.
-a little out of sync,
-rusty beltway
December 8, 2010 @ 2:31 am
FUCK the LA, SAN DIEGO and ALL the fuckin freeways…I Hate the BIG city, big time! I grew up in a small town and hope to god I die in one, Don’t care which one…just as long as it aint a big “fuck you and the horse you rode in on” city! GOD help all you who live in one cause all you got is HIM and REAL COUNTRY MUSIC to make your stay tolerable. GREAT POST! R.I.P DON!
December 8, 2010 @ 2:55 am
P. fuckin S.! Not to change the subject…BUT didn’t “SAVING COUNTRY MUSIC” stem from “FREE HANK THREE” ? maybe my memory serves me wrong, again…BUT I THINK IT BROUGHT ME HERE!!! KEEP UP THE GREAT POSTS TRIGGERMAN, I JUST GET CORNFUSED WITH THE “DISSING” OF SHELTONS WORK…occasionaly?
December 8, 2010 @ 11:24 am
Were we talking about Hank III here?
And yes, this started as Free Hank III, I have far from forgotten. But it also started before Hank III destroyed personal relationships with Wayne Hancock, Joe Buck, Lucky Tubb, Keith Neltner, Blake Judd, Andra Dalto, and a dozen other behind-the-scenes people with less recognizable names. I can’t help if Hank III has become one of the most polarizing people in music, and no matter what I do, if I mention his name, I’m going to get hell from somewhere. You want me to quote the dozens of people who say I worship Hank III and only see him through rose-colored glasses and refuse to admit that he’s washed up? How can I be both a submissive hack to him AND “diss” him at the same time? And how is putting Hank III near the top of my 2010 Essential list a diss? I can’t control if Hank III has put out two consecutive albums that are less than his best, and that this is still way better than most the music out there. And I didn’t say it was less than his best, Hank III said that.
T minus 23 days until Hank III is free of Curb, and he can put out the music he wants, and not the music he’s willing to give to Curb so they can make money off of it till kingdom come.
December 9, 2010 @ 1:04 am
DEFINETLY not trying to rag on you Triggerman, I’ve just noticed the occassional barbs thrown his way lately and wondered…”why?”. I don’t know the problems with a lot of the names you’ve mentioned and I do not know the name Andra Dalto at all, but I do know (from a fans point of view) that Shelton likes to keep his show “proffessional” and as much as I love the recorded work of Lucky Tubb ( I own 3 of them) I know from my own bummed experience that he started the show off great and then got lost in the buzz he caught. I wonder if the other differances you have mentioned don’t stem from opening acts outgrowing (through popularity) their own opening act status?…too which I can understand a need to drop somebody on account of a wage demanded that is higher than the venues can afford. Hell, I am not “privy” to the info you are Triggerman so am subject to second guesses and really only know what is put out there for sale. I DO LIKE REBEL WITHIN as an album even though it does come with Sheltons own dissclaimer, I don’t like it as much as I do some of his other work but I feel the album stands on its own feet. There is some great songs on that album but it seems like everyone wants the NEW album to be better than another or it’s not any good and deserves downgraded as “not as good as”. I aint never nor do I want to suck Sheltons dick but I think REBEL WITHIN is the best album he has put out…since his previous good album. Thanks for postin’ Triggerman…I know I may have wandered off the beatin path by posting this here but previous comments on other posts caught up with me on this one!:)
July 7, 2012 @ 4:10 pm
Ojaioan, I love the feedback and quite an articulate response I must say, but can I chime in on the “blanket statement” of Fuck the Big City? If were talking infrastructure, yes I hate the big city too. I’m from Austin, TX and I’ve been in San Diego for about 5 years. I did my best to bring a little Outlaw Country spirit with me and some friends and I play and record a little outlaw/alt country music cuz we grew up on it and we love it. We looking at the big city thing as a challenge, to try and play as much as we can and turn people on to the style they havent been exposed to. Likewise, and I never thought I’d say so, it’s a great place to have a little outlaw country music band, cuz we all know that, at least as far as San Diego is concerned, it’s completely surrounded by rural country folks who love the lifestyle and music. Anyways thats my two cents, if we ever play Ojai, maybe you can come to the show and giver a listen. Sorry im 2 years late on the comment.
December 9, 2010 @ 4:24 am
Thank you for a true gem. Great blog Triggerman.
December 16, 2010 @ 7:05 pm
From intro to my re-post of this on my FB: Gotta admit, I hadn’t thought about Don Meredith in awhile, but it hit me in the gut when I heard of his passing. The man did as much for the real thang as anyone out there. Thanks to Triggerman for summing up my feelings here, and don’t miss the videos of Jerry Jeff doing LA Freeway and Mr. Bojangles to boot.
Thanks,
Will James