Shelli Coe Channels Personal Experience with Famous Father Into Universal Message in New Song
The holidays are a joyous time for many, and for others it’s the time of year when familial strains are brought most to the forefront. David Allan Coe may be about the last person you would think of as a family man, but the history with his family is a lot more complex than one might imagine, and it’s something he’s addressed intimately in his music over the years to the tune of inspiring some of his best work. His children can attest to the complexity of David Allan Coe the family man, including, if not especially, the children who’ve chosen to follow in his footsteps by entering the business of making music.
It has been a tumultuous few years for David Allan Coe, even by David Allan Coe standards. He was married to Kimberly Hastings in April 17th, 2010—a backup singer he’d been dating for a decade. Then in March of 2013, Coe was involved in a serious car accident in Ocala, Florida. Coe had to be cut out of the car and experienced cracked ribs and bruised kidneys, and spent multiple days in a Florida hospital.
In the aftermath of the accident, some family relationships became even further strained with Coe, including with his son and guitar player Tyler Mahan Coe, who has since spoken publicly how the incident was used by others to push him farther away from his father. Then it was revealed in September of this year that David Allan Coe has plead guilty to one count of impeding and obstructing the due administration of the internal revenue laws. Coe is waiting to be sentenced, and could face up to three years in prison. He also owes the IRS nearly half a million dollars in back taxes.
All of this is the backdrop for David Allan Coe’s daughter releasing the song “All They Ever Wanted Was Your Name” as a new single. The Austin-based singer-songwriter has put together a respected body of work that like all daughters and sons of country music celebrities, seems to always be both hiding in the shadows and invariably compared to their parent’s efforts when it should be considered on its own merit. Though the new song is said to have been written around 10 years ago as an open letter to her father, Shelli Coe insists that the real heart of the song is something we can all relate to.
“‘All They Ever Wanted Was Your Name’ was written about a celebrity who falls in love with someone who does not have their best interests at heart, who can’t wait for them to get out of the way so that they can take over and be the celebrity,” says Shelli. “I used a real life experience to create the song, but honestly, the song could be about anyone who falls in love with someone who is not good for them. And everyone sees this and they try to warn them, but they’re just not listening because they’re in love, and love is blind.”
One of the things that is compelling about “All They Ever Wanted Was Your Name” is how despite being an angry song on the surface, Shelli resolves the anger she might have with the individual who’s gone blind, understanding that it’s not from hate, but from love where the blindness is emanating. There’s also a message of hope that perhaps that blindness will recede over time, while the heart of the song still shows concern for her loved one. Another nuanced element of the song is how Shelli slyly incorporates a portion of the chorus of one of her father’s signature songs, “You Never Even Called Me By My Name,” into the chorus of this new effort.
“This song was very hard for me to write because I love my friends and my family very much, and I don’t want to see them getting taken advantage of,” she says. “I’ve had a lot of people come up to me after shows and tell me how that song personally spoke to them. So I’m happy I was able to write it in a universal way to allow everyone to relate to it.”
Beyond the story of someone being taken advantage of, “All They Ever Wanted Was Your Name” teaches an understanding that part of love is patience and being willing to weather rough patches, to look beyond selfish perspectives to understand and accept the things one can’t control, and to be willing to be the bigger person and continue to show love, sometimes even when it’s not responded to or reciprocated, or is even misinterpreted. Because in the end, the love never dies—an especially important message to hear this time of year.
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December 17, 2015 @ 10:30 am
Also, it’s a somewhat appropriate place to point out that someone finally cleaned up David Allan Coe’s very convoluted discography on Wikipedia. It was none other than frequent SCM commenter Acca Dacca who took of his own time to give all David Allan Coe fans a reliable reference to his releases. Check it out if you’re so inclined: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Allan_Coe_discography
December 17, 2015 @ 12:13 pm
Just took a look and what a great job Acca Dacca did! Impressive. Thanks.
December 21, 2015 @ 3:34 pm
Thanks for the shout out. Figures it’d be on the one article I skipped first time around 😛 (though in my defense, I didn’t know Shelli was related to David before finally clicking). And after having listened to all of his Columbia releases, I can at least agree with the assertion that Coe is an artist’s artist. He’s also perhaps the most versatile country vocalist I’ve ever put ears to, with the ability to switch from baritone to tenor to backwoods Southern at the drop of a hat. Talented man, if troubled.
December 31, 2015 @ 2:12 am
Shelli is singing on Family Album as well as her photos are on the back, inside and she is the little girl on DAC’s lap on the front cover – if you own a vinyl copy. Human Emotions album is about Shelli and her mom (letter on back of album is to her mom) – again, vinyl copy. He dedicated his poetry book to Shelli. Missing The Kid was written about Shelli. She toured with him 1990-1991…Jody Coe did a special write up on Shelli if you ever received letters from the DAC fan club…
January 25, 2016 @ 1:28 pm
Ah, thanks for the details (and sorry for the late reply). I’m not old enough to have been a part of his fan club when Jody was (presumably) sending out letters (perhaps I’m wrong, but I assume this was several years ago at this point?). Nonetheless, I DO have the Bear Family Records CD reissues of David’s Columbia Records albums, in which the front and back covers as well as his personally written liner notes are replicated verbatim, though obviously the art is much smaller than a vinyl record. I initially scanned over the material when I got them a few months ago but it didn’t have as much significance at the time (and it probably didn’t help that I crammed all of that reading into a single sitting as I was ripping the music into my computer). I’ll probably go back and look again at some point.
If it helps, I at least know who his son Tyler is. But his personal life has always been a bit hard for me to follow given that the majority of what’s written about him these days is about his exaggerated prison sentence, X-rated albums or how much of an asshole he is. Other details are hard to come by. I was particularly confounded by his apparent endorsement of Mormon values and polygamy on Family Album, and that he seems to have been divorced and married about every other year in the ’80s.
May 10, 2017 @ 6:42 pm
I have been listening to and reading about DAC non-stop the past few weeks. Man he really could deliver a song. I too am really curious to learn more about his personal life but you are right, it is very hard to find stuff on that.
November 24, 2016 @ 5:37 pm
Dave has always been good to me. Jessie, his wife from his song, House we’ve been calling a home.
December 17, 2015 @ 10:39 am
She should go on tour with Holly Williams.
December 17, 2015 @ 11:11 am
Man, this song is deep. I really like her!
Speaking of DACs discography, recommended for AirPlay I thought was his best work.
December 17, 2015 @ 2:17 pm
I like the song a lot, on its own merits, minus knowing a thing about the backstory. I like her strong somewhat deep voice. As to the rest-how can outsiders ever know the truth, even in cases when both sides speak? To this day I don’t know what to make of the situation regarding Tammy Wynette, George Richey, and her kids, and there’s been reams of written words from both camps. I don’t even know if the very people involved can ever be objective enough to know the truth, especially when interested parties-friends, etc-may have their own agendas for pushing one side or the other. I know zilch about this situation, and it wouldn’t matter if I did know as much as any outsider can ever know, I still wouldn’t know a thing.
But again, I like the song a whole lot. Sounds closer to any real country music than most things I’ve heard in a while, not that that’s saying much, as even on this site, a review has to really impress me as saying that the music is authentically, traditionally country, before I’ll waste my limited time (very big
life and death issues in personal life make these things seem a bit small) even giving it a listen.
Trigger, on my Christmas wish list is a wish that you, if you have time and inclination, would make a very small list-I imagine it would necessarily be very small, as there would be few candidates-say, maybe 5 choices, of very traditionally country sounding artists who would be worth me giving the time to listen to. Maybe a couple of other people would like it, I don’t know. N’importante, if not.
December 17, 2015 @ 9:51 pm
Melanie,
I’m not sure if you’re asking for me to publish a list, or for a list here, but as far as “very” traditional records, I would recommend:
Michael Monroe Goodman ”“ The Flag, The Bible, and Bill Monroe
Jason James ”“ Self-Titled
Roo Arcus ”“ Cowboys and Sunsets
Brennen Leigh ”“ Brennen Leigh Sings Lefty Frizzell
Eric Strickland ”“ Relevate
Daryle Singletary ”“ There”™s Still A Little Country Left
The Malpass Brothers ”“ Self-Titled
December 17, 2015 @ 11:48 pm
That’s perfect, thanks Trigger-i have two of these listed already (Singletary, Goodman), and will check out the others. Very kind of you to take the time 🙂
December 18, 2015 @ 9:35 am
Thank you for this! Just got a few new guys to listen to!
December 17, 2015 @ 2:27 pm
Somehow kd lang’s “Dont Be A Lemming Polka” is sounding like a very holiday-ish song to me right now, lol. I do believe that it may become a Christmas staple for me.
December 17, 2015 @ 6:30 pm
Good song
December 18, 2015 @ 3:49 am
Interesting song. It seems strangely in sync with DAC’s recent comments about how everybody in his team has betrayed him. I wonder if Shelli influenced DAC to think that way…
In any case, it is well-written and well-sung.
December 18, 2015 @ 5:05 am
This is music unlike what Tanya Montana has been able to produce.
December 18, 2015 @ 9:34 am
I wonder in 50 years will she be riding around the USA in a tour bus, playing dives, spewing profanity and spitting onstage, playing bits and pieces of cover songs for 45 min to an hour, and refusing to hire an actual bass player.
December 18, 2015 @ 9:38 am
We can only hope.
December 21, 2015 @ 9:25 am
Well, Trigger someone will have to follow in her father’s footsteps when he is gone. But then again, I can see Coe playing the same show he is playing now well into his 100s.
December 18, 2015 @ 1:35 pm
Great job to the dude that fixed up the DAC discography (it WAS a friggin’ MESS).
The only 2 things (and maybe this was intentional since these were released under the name Dave Coe)?, But, the single “Suffering” b/w “Play All the Sad Songs” was supposedly from 1967. Also, from what I can find, the single “One Way Ticket To Nashville” b/w “A Prisoner’s Release” was supposedly 1968. These could be wrong (I looked up copies that have been sold on Ebay in the past via the popsike.com website which is a fantastic resource as far as looking up extremely rare records, etc. as well as what prices they have fetched over time). To look these up, just go to popsike.com and type in Dave Coe in the search box (NOT david allan coe).
Coe also supposedly recorded either one or two more 45’s for the Cabut label under a pseudonym, but I have NEVER been able to either A. Verify that fact or B. If it IS true, figure out what alias he used. In looking at other releases via the Cabut label, I have never been able to find one that fit that particular narrative. So it’s possible that it’s false information.
I wish someone could help me get my Wikipedia article for my bluegrass musician uncle’s (from the Burnett/Rutherford duo) article approved. The person that rejected it said that it was a great submission and very interesting but that it needed more “citations” or something? (I DID cite about 5 different outside sources, so, I’m unsure what it is that they are wanting – I mean, Burnett has a page up and I think it could use some work, personally speaking. I thought my article regarding my uncle Leonard was MUCH superior, so, who knows. First time I had ever attempted to create a Wikipedia article so I AM a total newbie at it for certain).
I have become pretty fascinated with learning all that I can about my uncle Leonard over the course of the last (nearly) 2 yrs. I learned that he and Burnett were influences on a young Hank Williams Sr. and were among the earliest to start cutting records. VERY interesting stuff, but SO many people are dead (Leonard himself died fairly young in 1953). His youngest brother (my grandfather) turned 90 Wednesday and I have talked to him several times but he said he and Leonard rarely saw each other. Said Leonard was a vagabond – a nice guy, but a “rotten” guy all the same (he was an alcoholic) and he wouldn’t bother taking care of his children. Grandpa told me he actually saw him lying in the ditch (he was dead) but he did not know that he was actually dead, just thought that he was having one of his seizures as he was laying with his fiddle over his face which his how he would do whenever he suffered an attack. That fiddle is now in a glass case in the KY Music Hall of Fame @ Renfro Valley.
If anyone with some Wikipedia expertise could potentially help me, I’d greatly appreciate it. Thanks!