Saving Country Music’s 2019 Song of the Year
There was no shortage of songs in 2019 that spoke very directly to the struggles that women face in society, and have faced for centuries, or eons. In fact one could make the case there was a mighty surplus of these anthems in this calendar year. And that’s probably a good thing—better than a dearth of them. Because no matter their medium, it’s the job of the artists of an era to reflect and chronicle the moments we are living in, document the attitudes and appetites swelling among the populous, articulate the ideas and opinions as they render themselves in the words and actions of everyday people, and mold them into creative forms for the future to behold. And right now, womanhood is what many are focusing their energy upon as society goes through a reckoning for the sins not just of the present, but of the past.
Expending frustration or expressing one’s self in song can be a great unburdening for an artist, and an outlet for anger or frustration among an audience. But it isn’t always the catalyst for change that some would love to believe or characterize. In fact sometimes, if not commonly, these expressions can become the antithesis of positive action as they repel certain people who feel like their values are being impinged upon, or outright insulted, often because they are. This means the end result isn’t always the change sought for when pen is put to paper. These efforts only resolve into the further polarization of individuals, and institutionalizing the distrust among disagreeing parties.
Slogans, mantras, and hashtags may be a helpful way to spread awareness or channel grievances. But art, and music specifically, has always been uniquely gifted in its ability to cross ideological boundaries, and break down the barriers surrounding hardened hearts, but only if it sidesteps the spouting of platitudes, cliches, and talking points, unlike some, if not many of the supposed empowerment anthems we’ve seen in 2019, which unfortunately do little more than pander to established constituencies. It’s songs that tell a story, that find the universal language that no matter what your ideology or upbringing, they resonate within your soul the same way they do for someone who you may consider your polar opposite, or sworn adversary.
The common threats many women face isn’t a right or left issue. Conservative or liberal, country or urban, black or white, Southern or Northern, everyone has a mother. Many have sisters, daughters, cousins, nieces, or wives. And we all universally believe in the importance of their right to consent, and to be secure in their person. How to convey the fear some women face, and the lingering nightmare after they experience an unwanted, or violent sexual encounter is what Emily Scott Robinson captures in “The Dress.” You don’t have to be a woman, or a feminist, or the victim of sexual assault to feel the power of this song. You just have to be willing to listen.
“The Dress” by Emily Scott Robinson isn’t the Saving Country Music Song of the Year because it’s the hip, fashionable, and politically expedient thing to do for popularity’s sake in 2019. It’s because “The Dress” would be a landmark offering of music any year, at any time, no matter what tempests are brewing among the popular press or social media. And perhaps most importantly, “The Dress” presents a template—a roadmap to all other artists of how to go about their desires to change the world through song. It’s not just about putting your anger and frustrations on paper, or even attempting to spread awareness through verse and character. It’s about sharing something so fiercely personal so the audience can’t help but feel it very palpably. It’s about expressing something in a way where nuance, subtlety, and story make the message comprehensive to everyone.
Many songs celebrating women have populated end-of-year-lists in 2019, or have won awards. But in the esteemed opinion of this little corner of the internet, “The Dress” by Emily Scott Robinson was the superior offering, no matter the subject matter. It was the masterpiece.
READ: Saving Country Music 2019 Song of the Year Nominees
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Emily Scott Robinson’s 2019 album Traveling Mercies is full of songs that were of superior quality, and the entire record is worthy of exploring.
December 23, 2019 @ 10:12 am
Bravo!
December 23, 2019 @ 10:20 am
Cody Jinks (William and Wanda) got robbed.
December 23, 2019 @ 10:38 am
I want to agree with you, but there’s some things about “William and Wanda” in its narrative that just aren’t that obvious and likely won’t grasp every listener. For example, the wife and little boy not crying because they’re in Heaven without physical bodies and can’t cry isn’t obvious to any person from any background. I think “The Dress” has a more obvious story line that’s relatable to more people.
December 23, 2019 @ 6:42 pm
I think the not crying in Heaven is more because they are in heaven so while they may be waiting for William to arrive, crying and sadness just isn’t a concept that exists in such a place.
But that’s the beauty of a song like William and Wanda, that people can interpret it differently, or find hidden layers, it shouldn’t be a detriment.
December 24, 2019 @ 5:40 am
Sure….and for the record I think the dress has very powerful lyrics but it needs help as a song. William and Wanda is perfect in every way (so is You Look Good in Neon)
December 26, 2019 @ 9:32 am
That’s my main complaint too. It’s a good song, but to be song of the year, I need the lyrics and music to both be outstanding.
December 23, 2019 @ 10:25 am
Great choice!!
December 23, 2019 @ 10:25 am
Congratulations Emily!
I loved this song and “Traveling Mercies” in it’s entirety!
A well deserved win right here. While songs can be fun and songs can be nostalgic, it’s always nice to see something with a deeper substance/message get recognized for what it is every once in a while.
This is what well crafted art sounds like.
For my own personal taste I was torn between this and “Rodeo”. Glad to see one of my favorites won! Cheers!
December 23, 2019 @ 10:28 am
black helicopter got robbed
December 23, 2019 @ 11:48 am
Ya know peoples favorite song is such a personal thing on so many different levels. Picking a song of the year for a genre like Trig does is a completely different thing. Many months ago when I first brought up my love for Black Helicopter I just said it was MY favorite and even though it’s not serious song I myself and I’m sure Ben appreciates Trig giving it a well deserved nomination. Emily’s song is incredible and deep and makes you think and feel a certain way. Black Helicopter is a fun sing along that makes you feel another way. Both are great as are the other nominees, there is no robbery. We’re lucky to have all these artists among us.
December 24, 2019 @ 12:31 am
One more thing…….as much as I love Black Helicopter and Em won for a deep song Ben too is capable of writing a song that might touch you that way as it did me even though it’s a bit older and might be seen as the opposite point of view in possibly quite a different scenario. It’s called “99 Years”, and brings goosebumps and tears to me just as much as “The Dress”.
December 26, 2019 @ 10:26 am
Just so you know, this scott is not the one from downstate, JB. You and I think a lot alike on music…
December 23, 2019 @ 10:35 am
100% in agreement with your choice and your reasoning , Trigger . ‘ It all starts with a song ‘ , as they like to spout in Nashville but obviously don’t mean as often as they , perhaps , once did , hasn’t been illustrated this clearly in quite a while ( the house that built me comes to mind ) or so unaffectedly vocally or musically as it is in ‘the dress ‘ . Paraphrasing your thoughts above , the song is timely ….and timeless with no hint of capitulation to musical trend . I’m an ESR fan since SCM brought her music to light for me and she has written a gem with ” the dress “.
December 23, 2019 @ 10:35 am
Danm Good Choice. My song of the year however would be Sean McConnell – “I Could Have Been an Angel”.
December 23, 2019 @ 10:41 am
Hard to get upset, because all the nominated songs are great. However I was really pulling for Black Helicopter.
December 23, 2019 @ 11:12 am
I really like the song but my choice would have been Letter to Madeleine
December 23, 2019 @ 6:46 pm
It’s by far my most listened to song in 2019, although I think I would have given it to William and Wanda.
December 23, 2019 @ 11:33 am
One thing I like about this site, for the most part we all can respectfully agree or disagree and it never turns into a YouTube comment section.
This isnt my song of the year, but in fairness we had so many damn good quality songs this year and this song is one of them.
Now here’s to hoping Mike and the Moonpies get Album of the Year
December 23, 2019 @ 11:41 am
Somehow I missed the boat on this one, so thanks for the inclusion. Nice choice, and well written review. And Happy Holiday’s to all at SCM!
December 23, 2019 @ 12:08 pm
Great song.
My Song of the Year: Jake Ward – “Where The Wind Blows”
Texas artist. For me…a very emotional track.
Most Played Song of the Year: Grant Gilbert – “Hey Bartender”
Texas artist. Classic story. Modern track.
Australian Song of the Year: Felicity Urquhart feat. Shanley Del – “Where The Fruit Hangs Low”
What a duet! The voices blend so well. Looks like Felicity Urquhart hit the jackpot in 2019.
Bluegrass or Heritage Song of the Year: Kristy Cox – “Train”
Australian bluegrass. Can’t wait for her next album (early 2020).
December 23, 2019 @ 12:58 pm
I wholeheartedly agree. I don’t think any other song has ever captured the angst and doubt of sexual assault.
December 23, 2019 @ 1:25 pm
Absolutely agree with this choice. This song gave me chills when I first heard it and I’m a man who has never gone through anything like that. Just incredibly honest and raw storytelling that cuts through the noise and reaches hearts. Very deserving of the award!
December 23, 2019 @ 1:27 pm
This is pretty weak. But it goes with the palette of the blogger.
December 23, 2019 @ 2:17 pm
I completely agree with this choice. In a crowded field of many terrific songs this year, this one stood out to me. It’s just one hell of an incredible song.
December 23, 2019 @ 2:26 pm
“You Look Good In Neon” by Mike and the Moonpies is not only my choice for 2019’s Song of the Year, but it is my pick for Song of the Decade! This song is everything I love about country music, and it has given me hope for traditional country music to one day come back to FM radio. Btw, this song sounds good in neon, too!
December 23, 2019 @ 3:02 pm
Glad Emily Scott Robinson is taking home some SCM hardware! Love all the songs on that album, as songs first, and her performances throughout are stunning.
December 23, 2019 @ 4:08 pm
I am deeply happy with this choice 🙂
December 23, 2019 @ 4:33 pm
Congratulations Emily Scott Robinson!
I am so glad this site brought you and this song to our attention way back in March.
December 23, 2019 @ 5:22 pm
My favorite song of the year. I remember listening to it for the first time and getting chills.
December 23, 2019 @ 6:48 pm
Truly poignant song and a fitting choice, although I would have gone with William and Wanda.
December 23, 2019 @ 8:30 pm
Horrible choice. I think you’re trying too hard to prove you’re some woke journalist and not some backwoods country music critic when your critics already made up their minds. This choice was so predictable and I saw it coming a mile away. I guess it fits right in in the current climate of political grandstanding and social justice circle jerks. Maybe you won over a few of the NPR crowd with this choice so congrats on that. Super disappointed in this. It’s like someone can’t win an award by writing and singing a good country song. It has to have some hot earthshaking message wrapped up in it. It really sets an unfortunate precedent. 0/10.
December 23, 2019 @ 8:33 pm
…or maybe it’s just a good song.
The only thing right about your comment is that my name is mud with the woke crowd, and not this or anything else will rehabilitate it.
December 23, 2019 @ 8:41 pm
It’s ok Trig you can still redeem yourself with AOTY. If you give it to that Charlie chick or this dress song broad the pandering would be way too obvious though fyi.
December 23, 2019 @ 9:49 pm
Blockman,
The obviousness of this is obvious. That’s basically why I wrote this article like I did and addressed it head on. So don’t think you’re seeing something that the rest of us are snow-blind to because we all have our noses so far up our own asses. It’s unfortunate how obvious it is, but I had to ask the question of myself if I was going to disqualify what I believed in my heart was the best song of the year (and it appears others agree) just because some grousers would call me a soy boy. I don’t run a popularity contest here. This was my honest decision, damn the criticism.
December 24, 2019 @ 1:23 am
I didn’t read the article at first to be honest I just scrolled til I saw the winner and then offered my honest take on the song and the result. I’m sorry if I think this award smacks of someone trying to prove they aren’t racist because they got a black friend. In this case it’s ‘im not sexist or misogynist I gave the song of the year to a chick with a song about a dress!’.
Now I obviously don’t agree with your critics and definitely don’t think you are sexist or misogynist. I’ve followed this site long enough to see that obviously isn’t true . But with all the great songs this year I just find it very hard to believe that this one is the absolute best. You pretty much said it has no replay value and it’s something you listen to once then think about . And it’s such a niche subject matter id expect soty to be a bit more universal. But hey it’s your site and your opinion . No one agrees on everything (except Sturgill Stans) . Anyways Merry Christmas, Trig!
December 24, 2019 @ 6:58 am
The song isn’t “about a dress.” It’s about a woman being raped and then wondering if she’s to blame. So no, not a niche subject matter. And he did not say the song had no replay value. He said you only had to listen to it once to feel the impact.
December 24, 2019 @ 10:55 am
Hey Blockman,
Totally understand if some folks disagree with this pick. Everyone’s opinion is different, especially when it comes to Song of the Year picks. I try to respect everyone’s opinion, and only claim to represent my own. Though I will say, reader feedback did play a part in this decision as well, and though there are some that disagree with this pick, there are others that just as passionately agree. In my opinion, if we didn’t live in as polarizing of a political moment, people wouldn’t be half as concerned that I pick this for politically expedient reasons. I recognize that, but I can say with sincerity, I picked what I believed was the best song, period.
Merry Christmas, and Happy Holidays to you too, and thanks for reading and commenting.
December 24, 2019 @ 11:09 am
Hoss, this is only a niche subject if you are a man with no female friends.
December 24, 2019 @ 1:40 pm
So…it’s definitely a niche subject for that kid.
December 23, 2019 @ 8:58 pm
Serious question: where does this song fit in with all of you people’s playlists? Like when do you find the time to listen to this? Drinking beers with the boys? Shopping for drugs in your pick up truck? Shooting up in the McDonalds bathroom? Road trips? Getting stoned after work? Twirling your beard or mustache while drinking a Barolo? Reading Fifty Shades of Grey in a bubble bath? Crying yourself to sleep by candlelight ? Charging your Tesla? Trying on women’s clothing? Getting pegged by your wife or girlfriend? Sipping on a 10$ fair trade organic latte? Grocery shopping at whole foods? I’m at a total loss here…
December 23, 2019 @ 9:52 pm
The great thing about Emily Scott Robinson’s “The Dress” is you only have to listen to it once to feel the impact. After that, the sheer thought of it makes you shiver. This isn’t a song for blasting with the windows rolled down, nor is any “Song of the Year” for that matter.
And as for your Tesla, pegging, organic latte, and whole foods references, these are about as useful as the stereotypes of slack jaw racist country fans fucking their cousins. You’re better than that.
December 24, 2019 @ 1:01 am
Well as they say music is the sound track of our lives and I’m just not sure what part of my life this song fits in with but hey – everyone is different! I listened to the song once and it’s completely forgettable. I can’t even remember a single line or melody apart from some mention of a dress. She’s no Loretta that’s for sure.
December 24, 2019 @ 1:42 pm
…is he better than that?
December 23, 2019 @ 10:20 pm
Holy fuck bud, have a beer and give your balls a tug.
December 24, 2019 @ 7:26 am
Not to address the loser trolls, but I spin this song at least once a week.
December 24, 2019 @ 7:36 am
Good choice, brilliant song.
My SOTY is still “mint condition” by Caroline Spence
December 24, 2019 @ 8:10 am
was The Father, My Son, and Holy Ghost up for consideration? If that’s no the country song of the year, i don’t know what is.
December 24, 2019 @ 10:30 am
Any song of the year is generally subject to personal tastes. But this is not a country song it could an Americana song it definitely is a folk song but it is not a country song. There is no country feel to the song at all just folk. Nothing wrong with folk mind you but it is folk. And you of anyone should know that. It’s obvious you wanted to pick a female artist and that is fine because this year had some of the best female country songs and if I was ranking them all I think you could have 5-7 female artist songs in the top 10. You could have picked any number of absolutely great country songs either from albums or from singles put out by female artists. Songs by Erin Endlerlin, Ellen Jewell, Michaela Anne, Kathryn Legendre, Darby Sparkman, Ashton Shepherd, Sydney Adams, Charlie Marie, and Caroline Spence had amazing albums with more than one song capable of getting single of the year. Kayla Ray, Ashley McBride, or Jamie Lin Wilson and others released strong singles which could also be a candidate for single of the year. All of this artists I mentioned sing real country music not to be confused with with folk music. Now before you get all up into my grill with your response, there is nothing wrong with the song you chose as a folk song of the year although I don’t even think it qualifies there as the best of folk, but that’s just in my humble opinion. Michael seems to think anyone with an option is. loser troll I’ll say this when you have to resort to childish name calling you have lost the argument before you begin. Now in addition to songs from artists listed above I think Erin Enderlin should have the song of the year with Use Me Again, or Ellen Jewell with These Blues both great choice. With the plethora of real country songs released this year there are more artists than ever who could easily get Best Country Song of 2019. From big artists like Vince Gill A World Without Haggard, Age Connolly Say It Out Loud, Creed Fisher I’ll Have a Few More, several Cody Jinks songs, Larry Fleet, David Ball and about 175 other strong artists some legends from back in the 80’s 90’s like Crystal Gayle, or Reba, or some of the new country stuff which I do not personally care for but is closer to country than that folk song.
December 24, 2019 @ 11:04 am
Ken,
I appreciate your perspective. But as someone who has made a decade-long career out of holding a hard line upon what is country and what isn’t, I respectfully feel like your concern here is misplaced. Emily Scott Robinson is a country artist. Listen to “White Hot Country Mess” is you need some confirmation of that. Does her music veer more towards folk? It probably does, just like it did for Guy Clark, Townes Van Zandt, and other pure songwriters. Why is “The Dress” considered more folk than Cody Jinks’ “William and Wanda”? Because he has more natural twang in his voice? They’re both acoustic ballads. It feels like a reduction of the art of songwriting to quibble whether “The Dress” is country or not. She could have added a steel guitar, but it would have broken the intimacy of the song, just like it would have for “William and Wanda.” I concern myself with genre most of the time. But when it comes to Song of the Year nominees, the composition and performance is the most important factor. We’ll save the bellyaching about what is country for the Sam Hunt and Kane Brown discussions. Song of the Year goes much more deeper than that. Hank Williams did not consider himself a country singer. He considered himself a folk singer. We’re all music fans first. “The Dress” definitely fits well within the broad realm of what country music is. But most importantly, it’s an excellent song that transcends genre with its powerful mood and message.
December 24, 2019 @ 2:45 pm
Excellent choice. Probably the one song that stuck with me the most this year. And she couldn’t be any nicer to meet and talk with.
For some folks, maybe you need another award for “Best Honky-Tonking, Boot-stomping, Barn-burner Song of the Year”.
December 24, 2019 @ 7:20 pm
I don’t know about this one. Not to downplay the serious subject matter, but I’m not that impressed by the music or the lyrics. Not saying it’s bad, but country song of the year? The lyrics are full of cliches:
Was it the dress.
Running from the storm.
Sleep with the lights on I’m afraid of being alone.
These are all tropes in a sense by now.
Again, not saying the subject matter isn’t important, it’s just the lyrics are full of formulaic cliches instead of approaching this from an original angle.
I don’t care about awards as much as hearing about new music on this site…this one just doesn’t really click with me. To each their own…
December 25, 2019 @ 8:04 pm
It resonated with me immediately. I loved the angle of “self-doubt” and not just a blanket statement of “men are evil” but also the idea that women have internal struggles after an ordeal like this. I’m very happy this won tbh, it was the most deserving songs of the ones nominated to me
December 25, 2019 @ 10:29 pm
Formulas can be effective I guess. Glad you like it.
December 26, 2019 @ 5:05 am
Sometimes simple writing is the most effective. Getting bogged down in clever turns of phrases can detract from the story. This is a strong story that brings up uncomfortable emotions, which to me is important in art.
December 26, 2019 @ 7:11 am
Good point, I never said this was too simple. I said it was not original and full of cliches. See the difference? Also, you think a song like this in 2019 is “uncomfortable?”
December 26, 2019 @ 9:55 am
Yes, it makes me uncomfortable because it brings back bad memories for me, but maybe it doesn’t hit other people that hard that can’t directly relate to the subject. It’s nothing I want to hear over and over or sing along to, for sure. A couple times of hearing it is enough. But it did make an impact, so to me it is an important song.
December 26, 2019 @ 10:37 am
Fair enough. I can’t speak to what it means to others and as I said I don’t want to downplay the subject matter itself. Music is highly subjective and personal. I’m just commenting, as objectively as I can, if I personally think it was the best SONG in all of country music in 2019. This theme has been around a long time, and was highly popularized in the movie The Accused in 1988 as well as the “dress too short” counter argument that I’ve heard too many times to count. That doesn’t take away from how serious the subject is. But to me, that, and repeating lyrics like “running from the storm” so many times, sounds formulaic fo me. Again, to each their own….
December 26, 2019 @ 10:06 am
The use of framing, via this being a panic attack after finding the dress in the laundry, is incredibly “original.”
As are several of the images, which you skip because their inclusion is inconvenient to your point.
Also…I’m not sure how “But it’s 2019!!!!” in any way refutes the idea that listening to this song is deeply unsettling and cathartic.
December 26, 2019 @ 10:54 am
Yeah, the image of someone being unsettled by something they find in the laundry is TOTALLY original. Never heard that. Nor have I EVER heard “running from the storm” “hold my breath” and “lock the door” and “don’t answer the phone” and “sleep with the lights on.”
Nope, never heard ANY of these before.
And you’re right, this song in the context of 2019 isn’t worth considering either. My bad.
December 26, 2019 @ 12:24 pm
…lol.
At this point, I just gotta hope you’re being deliberately obtuse.
Otherwise, it’s thoroughly impressive how wildly you managed to misread each and every one of my points.
Like, do you know what “framing” means?
December 26, 2019 @ 12:45 pm
Shut the front door! Wow! I totally get it now, this song uses framing. Mind blown! Can’t compete with that. This is better than seeing a double rainbow! You should charge for this…
December 24, 2019 @ 7:55 pm
This was a hellaciously written song. I can definitely see why you picked it as “song” of the year. I listened to it for the first time after reading this article. While listening , even though I’ve never been in any situation or can even relate to the situation, the song was written in such a powerful manner that it gave me that “holy shit” goosebumps affect by the time the first chorus wraps up.
December 24, 2019 @ 7:58 pm
I’m not denying that it’s a great song, but I just can’t get into Emily Scott Robinson. It took me probably 20 tries to get all the way through this song. It’s just a snooze fest to me.
December 25, 2019 @ 7:54 am
Honestly, half the songs on her album could have been contenders. She’s really something.
December 25, 2019 @ 7:56 am
Traveling Mercies was a stunning album.
December 26, 2019 @ 5:44 am
A solid choice and I certainly won’t argue…. that being said, I could easily be talked into CWG’s “Sorry For the Wait” as SOTY as well. It is an incredible piece of songwriting. Just one man’s two cents.
Keep up the great work Trig!
January 20, 2020 @ 7:41 pm
Here’s a little laugh for your day…….
The Nashville Scene has released their top country singles of 2019. And topping the list at #1……………
1. Lil Nas X feat. Billy Ray Cyrus, “Old Town Road (Remix)” (Columbia)
I’m not kidding.
https://www.nashvillescene.com/music/cover-story/article/21110119/20th-annual-country-music-critics-poll-the-results
January 20, 2020 @ 7:59 pm
Dreadful, woke choice.